Dear Trans Clients: past, present, and future,

This is a letter I’ve long held in my heart, and now I want to speak it aloud. I want to put words to my care, my commitment, and my responsibility as your therapist and as a fellow human being.

It’s common for mainstream culture – with its lack of diverse faces, identities, and bodies – to influence people to develop obsessive thinking about diet and exercise. We see celebrities over the decades morph their bodies with plastic surgery and high-end, expensive diets and workout plans that the average person only dreams of affording. Visibility, however, is most often given to cisgender, heterosexual people who can fit the ideal: so where is the LGBTQ+ community in all of this?

If you are reading this, you might be curious about kink, trauma, or how the two can overlap. Maybe you have heard people say that kinky play can be healing. Maybe you are experimenting with different types of play and noticing that it brings up big feelings. First of all, welcome. You are not weird, you are not broken, and you are definitely not alone.

If you’re in a relationship, you’ve probably had this exact conversation (or at least thought it):

Are we fine?

We think we’re fine.

We’re probably fine… right?

Because sometimes love is easy. Other times, it’s like trying to assemble IKEA furniture without the instructions: frustrating, confusing, and maybe missing a piece or two.

You're running late for work. You can't find your keys, again. You tear through the kitchen, flipping over bags, blaming your partner for "always moving your stuff," yelling louder than you meant to. Five minutes later, the keys are in your coat pocket. And suddenly, you're not angry anymore—you're just drained, embarrassed, and full of guilt. 

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.

Individuals with a history of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), unhealthy attachments, or obsessive/ perfectionistic thinking, may find themselves in a specific and often misunderstood subtype of OCD: Relationship OCD, or R-OCD.

The semester’s over—finally. No more late-night study sessions, endless deadlines, or back-to-back classes. You’d think you’d feel free, right?

So why does it feel more like a crash than a celebration?

Maybe you’re exhausted, zoning out more than usual, or wondering why your motivation disappeared the moment exams ended. You’re not lazy, and you’re definitely not alone.

Every year, millions of people in the United States celebrate LGBTQ+ Pride. June has been dubbed Pride Month, in honor of the LGBTQ+ history made this time of year, starting with the Stonewall Riots in 1969. Despite Pride Month itself being relatively new in the grand scheme of things, LGBTQ+ people have always existed, even if not in the specific names we denote to members of the community today.

Let’s talk about something that’s often misunderstood but affects more people than you might think: hypersexuality. Also known as compulsive sexual behavior, hypersexuality isn't just about having a high sex drive—it’s about feeling like your sexual thoughts or behaviors are running the show, even when you wish they wouldn’t.

Let’s be real: being queer in 2025 isn’t exactly easy. With so much happening politically, from anti-LGBTQ+ laws to harmful rhetoric in the media, it’s no surprise that so many in our community are feeling anxious, exhausted, or isolated. And when the world feels overwhelming, connecting with other people who get it isn’t just nice… It’s essential for our mental health.

As a therapist who focuses on helping people have effective relationships, one of the most common topics I discuss with clients is boundaries. Whether you're navigating a romantic relationship, friendship, or even a professional setting, effective boundaries are essential for emotional well-being, self-respect, and meaningful connection. But what exactly are boundaries, and how do you recognize and implement them?

Do you ever feel like even the smallest comment or misunderstanding hits you harder than it should? Maybe someone says something offhand, and hours later, you're still thinking about it—turning it over in your mind, wondering what it meant, or if it means they don’t really care.

It’s common for many neurodivergent folk that come to therapy to express some sort of dissatisfaction with how they move in the world. Many individuals express their lack of ability to “keep up” with all the tasks required of them every day, unable to start or plan out tasks enough to complete them.

Let’s be honest. Relationships can be messy. They’re beautiful, rewarding, and full of potential, but they also have a way of bringing our stuff to the surface. Especially when it comes to anxiety.

Let’s just say it: planning a threesome sounds sexy. But it can also be… intimidating. What if someone gets jealous? What if it’s awkward? What if one person is way more into it than the other?

Have you ever felt like your emotions were controlling you, rather than the other way around? Or found yourself trapped in patterns of behavior that you couldn’t break, no matter how hard you tried? If so, you're not alone—and this post could be exactly what you need to take back control.

Relationships are a fundamental part of human life. Whether romantic, platonic, or familial, relationships influence our emotional well-being, self-esteem, and life satisfaction.

Despite knowing something was “up” for years, that I was different in some way from a lot of my peers, I didn’t fully come out as a non-binary, transgender person until after high school.

There’s a common saying in eating disorder recovery: “Body image comes last.” Many ED survivors find they have a much easier time learning how to eat consistently and use new coping skills than learning to appreciate their bodies.