Codependency and ADHD: How They Connect and Why Therapy Helps You Break the Cycle
If you live with ADHD and feel like you are constantly managing other people’s emotions, you are not alone. Many people with ADHD find themselves stuck in codependent relationship patterns without realizing it. You might feel responsible for keeping the peace in your relationships. You might jump into caretaking or people pleasing when someone around you is stressed. You might give more than you get. These are common signs of codependency, and when ADHD is in the mix, these patterns can feel even stronger.
Why do I feel depressed when it is dark? How Seasonal Depression Shows Up and How You Can Support Yourself
Every year, as the days get shorter and the sky looks a little heavier, many people start to feel a shift in their mood. You might notice you are more tired than usual, or you suddenly feel overwhelmed by things that were fine a month ago. Maybe you feel yourself pulling away from loved ones or sinking into habits that make you feel disconnected. Seasonal depression is common, but a lot of people have a hard time noticing it until they are already deep in it. And if you already live with stress, anxiety, relationship strain, or the emotional load of caring for others, the seasonal shift can feel like someone quietly added more weight to your shoulders.
Anxiety vs. Overstimulation
Have you ever felt like your brain is on overload and your body is buzzing with tension, even when nothing is wrong? Many people confuse anxiety with overstimulation, and it’s easy to see why. Both can leave you exhausted, restless, or ready to hide in your car just to get a minute of quiet. Understanding the difference helps you respond with compassion instead of self-criticism, and that’s where real calm begins.
Understanding PMDD: When PMS Becomes Something More Serious
Many people experience some irritability or mood changes before their period. But for some, the emotional and physical symptoms are so intense that they interfere with work, relationships, and daily life. This is not “just PMS.” It may be Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder, or PMDD.
When Your Body and Mind Carry the Weight: Understanding Chronic Illness and Mental Health
Living with a chronic illness means waking up each day and navigating a body that does not always cooperate. Pain, fatigue, brain fog, or unpredictable symptoms can reshape how someone moves through the world. Yet what often goes unseen is how chronic illness impacts mental health, not only because of physical limitations but also because of the social and emotional messages surrounding disability itself.
When Safety Feels Scary
Have you ever wanted connection with a partner, friend, or loved one, and found yourself pulling away just as it appears? Maybe someone offers comfort or closeness, and it brings more tension than relaxation. You might find yourself overthinking, worrying about saying the wrong thing, or simply needing space when your heart secretly longs closeness. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
Depression When the World Feels Like It’s on Fire
There is something uniquely heavy about trying to keep your head above water when it feels like the entire world is sinking. War. Climate crisis. Injustice. Mass shootings. Political chaos. It feels like every time you check the news, something new is burning. And then there is your own life: bills, relationships, health, exhaustion. The pain of just existing.
If you are someone who lives with depression, this kind of global weight can feel unbearable. And if you are someone who has never struggled with your mental health before, you might be finding yourself caught off guard by just how exhausted and low you feel.
This blog is for you.
Sex Therapy for Neurodivergent People
Hi there. If you’re here, you might be wondering whether sex therapy can help you or someone you care about navigate intimacy, sexuality, or connection while living with a neurodivergent brain. Whether you have ADHD, autism, OCD, sensory sensitivities, or just find that your experiences of sex and relationships don’t look like what’s portrayed in mainstream culture, you’re not alone.
Sexual Violence in the LGBTQ+ Community
As a sex therapist, I’ve worked with individuals across a wide spectrum of identities and experiences. One issue that continues to surface in both subtle and profound ways is sexual violence. While it affects people of all backgrounds, sexual violence has a particularly complex and often under-discussed impact within the LGBTQ+ community.
Embracing Fat Liberation and Health at Every Size in Therapy: An Intersectional Approach
As a therapist committed to justice, compassion, and radical healing, I ground my practice in the principles of Fat Liberation, Health at Every Size (HAES), and intersectionality. These frameworks are not separate from the therapeutic process, they are central to it.
Navigating Roommate Relationships with Anxiety and Boundaries
It all started with a Post-it note war over who left the sponge in the sink.
Day one: “Please rinse the sponge after use 😊.”
Day two: “Maybe we should both try rinsing better 😉.”
Day three: “It’s moldy now. We’re all going to di
ADHD, Imposter Syndrome, and Grad School and Beyond: Learning to Trust Your Own Brain
Learning to thrive while working or in graduate school is difficult. It's mentally intense, often isolating, and full of brilliant people who seem like they have it all figured out. Now add ADHD to the mix, and suddenly it can feel like you're the only one who's barely holding it together while everyone else is submitting perfect drafts, publishing papers, and answering emails on time.
From Firestorms to Freedom: Real Tools for Navigating ADHD Rage
(Blog 2 in our series about ADHD Rage)
If you’ve ever felt like your emotions hijack your body—your voice rising before you know it, hands clenched, heart pounding, and next thing you know, you’re in silence, feeling full of regret, and maybe a heavy cloud of shame. My friend, you are not alone.
Change is Hard (Even the Good Kind), but We’ve Moved!
When I say that we’ve officially moved into a brand new therapy office as of August 4th, know that I’m saying it with both excitement and quite a bit of nervous system chaos.
A Letter from Your Therapist: To My Past, Present, and Future Trans Clients
Dear Trans Clients: past, present, and future,
This is a letter I’ve long held in my heart, and now I want to speak it aloud. I want to put words to my care, my commitment, and my responsibility as your therapist and as a fellow human being.
LGBTQ+ Bodies, Self Perception, and Disordered Eating
It’s common for mainstream culture – with its lack of diverse faces, identities, and bodies – to influence people to develop obsessive thinking about diet and exercise. We see celebrities over the decades morph their bodies with plastic surgery and high-end, expensive diets and workout plans that the average person only dreams of affording. Visibility, however, is most often given to cisgender, heterosexual people who can fit the ideal: so where is the LGBTQ+ community in all of this?
Trauma-Informed Kink: Where Healing Meets Pleasure
If you are reading this, you might be curious about kink, trauma, or how the two can overlap. Maybe you have heard people say that kinky play can be healing. Maybe you are experimenting with different types of play and noticing that it brings up big feelings. First of all, welcome. You are not weird, you are not broken, and you are definitely not alone.
Are We Fine? We Think We’re Fine. We’re Probably Fine… Right?
If you’re in a relationship, you’ve probably had this exact conversation (or at least thought it):
Are we fine?
We think we’re fine.
We’re probably fine… right?
Because sometimes love is easy. Other times, it’s like trying to assemble IKEA furniture without the instructions: frustrating, confusing, and maybe missing a piece or two.
I Thought I Was Overreacting—Turns Out, It Might Be ADHD Rage: A Beginner’s Guide to Understanding Emotional Outbursts
You're running late for work. You can't find your keys, again. You tear through the kitchen, flipping over bags, blaming your partner for "always moving your stuff," yelling louder than you meant to. Five minutes later, the keys are in your coat pocket. And suddenly, you're not angry anymore—you're just drained, embarrassed, and full of guilt.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.