As a sex therapist, this is one of the most common questions people bring into therapy. It usually comes with a lot of uncertainty and often a quiet fear about what the answer might mean. Is it me, or is it us?

If you’ve watched Bridgerton, you might remember the careful way characters talk around sex. One phrase that stands out is the idea of reaching a “pinnacle.” It’s a euphemism, sure, but it’s also a surprisingly useful one. Because for many people, that pinnacle can feel distant, confusing, or completely unreachable.

Let’s talk about something that’s often misunderstood but affects more people than you might think: hypersexuality. Also known as compulsive sexual behavior, hypersexuality isn't just about having a high sex drive—it’s about feeling like your sexual thoughts or behaviors are running the show, even when you wish they wouldn’t.