If you live with ADHD and feel like you are constantly managing other people’s emotions, you are not alone. Many people with ADHD find themselves stuck in codependent relationship patterns without realizing it. You might feel responsible for keeping the peace in your relationships. You might jump into caretaking or people pleasing when someone around you is stressed. You might give more than you get. These are common signs of codependency, and when ADHD is in the mix, these patterns can feel even stronger.

Learning to thrive while working or in graduate school is difficult. It's mentally intense, often isolating, and full of brilliant people who seem like they have it all figured out. Now add ADHD to the mix, and suddenly it can feel like you're the only one who's barely holding it together while everyone else is submitting perfect drafts, publishing papers, and answering emails on time.

(Blog 2 in our series about ADHD Rage)

If you’ve ever felt like your emotions hijack your body—your voice rising before you know it, hands clenched, heart pounding, and next thing you know, you’re in silence, feeling full of regret, and maybe a heavy cloud of shame. My friend, you are not alone.

When I say that we’ve officially moved into a brand new therapy office as of August 4th, know that I’m saying it with both excitement and quite a bit of nervous system chaos.

You're running late for work. You can't find your keys, again. You tear through the kitchen, flipping over bags, blaming your partner for "always moving your stuff," yelling louder than you meant to. Five minutes later, the keys are in your coat pocket. And suddenly, you're not angry anymore—you're just drained, embarrassed, and full of guilt. 

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.

Do you ever feel like even the smallest comment or misunderstanding hits you harder than it should? Maybe someone says something offhand, and hours later, you're still thinking about it—turning it over in your mind, wondering what it meant, or if it means they don’t really care.